Brian's Story

by Brian (former Big Brother)

I recently had the privilege of attending a very special wedding ceremony and am writing this letter to you today with the sole purpose of sharing this wonderful personal experience that occurred because I was a Big Brother. I am sure that there have been many other former Big Brothers and Big Sisters with similar experiences, but regardless, this is my own experience and one which I feel compelled to share with you. Hopefully, this story will help inspire the numerous volunteers and Bigs to continue their important work in making Big Brothers-Big Sisters such a great and worthwhile organization.

In my case, it was about 16 years ago (I was probably 23 at the time) when I was considering doing some volunteer work and my girlfriend of the day and who is now my wife encouraged me to look into becoming a Big Brother. This I did and decided to give it a try. I was matched with a very shy and quiet Little Brother named, Trevor. I believe he was 12 years of age at the time. For approximately two years, we had a very strong and regular relationship but unfortunately, because of a work related transfer, our weekly get togethers had to end. Trevor did, on one occasion, come to visit me while we were living in Sydney, Nova Scotia but as time went on over the following 12 years or so, the contact was very limited. In fact, until recently, the last time I had spoken to Trevor had been 2 or 3 years ago and it had been even longer before that. What I am trying to say is that time had gone by for both Trevor and me.

A very touching moment occurred for me with the receipt of a wedding invitation from my Little Brother, Trevor, who is now 27 years of age.

I attended Trevor's wedding on August 21, 1999 in Summerside, PEI and was overwhelmed by how much he had grown and how he had become such a fine gentleman. Trevor could not have found a more wonderful wife. It was a match made in heaven. I am very happy for him.

While I was at the wedding I was humbled by several of Trevor's relatives and friends who had remarked that Trevor spoke of me often. I felt like a celebrity. Little did I know that the friendship developed from the weekly get togethers would mean so much to Trevor that after 15 years, he would remember me with an invitation to his wedding. It just goes to show what a little bit of time spent with a child means to them.

It is also important to know that this friendship is genuine and is not a result of Trevor having been treated to costly outings. Most activities were very simple but it was the special attention given to him that made the friendship last. This certainly has been the greatest reward from my time as a Big Brother.

In future, both Trevor and I plan to visit each other whenever the opportunity presents itself.

In conclusion, I wish to say that this experience has provided me with a good feeling inside and has caused me to reevaluate the quantity and quality of time spent with my own children.

Submitted 1999

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